So yesterday's blog was about the ex-factor. And I got my first comment as a blogger that has genuinely warranted an explanation and a whole new blog, this one is for you Anonymous...
So, yesterday while shopping for dinner...
This message had been posted by Anonymous:
"Oi but sometimes its difficult to throw out those beautifully worn in leathers, vintage scarves, heirloom pieces...and don't old outfits sometimes come back into fashion... who would have thought we'd be back in flared jeans and palazzo pants...sometimes its worth hanging onto this cringe items... ex's included?!?"
So here was my reply:
I totally agree with you! I thought about this at length before I wrote this blog. And, funnily enough, I never let go of vintage pieces or items that I think may come back into fashion (I'm a bit of a hoarder.) Actually just recently, I fished out a pair of palazzo pants, circa 1998. I also find it hard to let go of exes, because they might come back into your life at the right time and magic could happen! I mean, hello you dated them because they were wonderful in the first place! So I'm with you on this one! But I also think that these are rarities. The elusive ex that comes back into your life with success and the vintage piece you can still pull off fifteen years later is rare. Special, possible, but rare. And thus I think they fall into a whole other category. The category of exception. There is after all an exception to every rule. But these exceptions are just that, exceptions. They are not at all about getting rid of clutter, and old clothes that no longer fill a function. And most importantly they are not about exes that are exes for a damn good reason (and should remain that way...) Maybe Ill discuss exceptions tomorrow;) Xxxx P.S We might even be buying scrunchies again soon, and I might marry my first ever boyfriend:)
Today we talk exceptions!!!
I love love love love vintage pieces. And I absolutely do believe that some exes may come back into your life, just like your flair jeans. But they are exceptions. Not common.
Sadly, most exes, really should remain in your past, just as some vintage pieces. No matter how cute, back in fashion or hot, they should never be worn again. An ex, or an ex piece of clothing that no longer suits who you have become, is not an exception. No matter how hard it is to let go of you favourite ripped jeans (you know you will never fit in them again) or the guy you thought you would spend the rest of your life with (you know he just wasn't the right fit). You have to let them go, for sanity, because nostalgia isn't always the healthy option, lets be honest.
As for exceptions… We are lucky to have them! They save us from being cynical and unbelieving. Exceptions get us through the rough times, and are like beacons of healthy nostalgic hope on a bad day. It's like a bunch of flowers that last longer than the rest. A person who notices you are down when no one else does. A green traffic light when you're running late. A smile from a stranger. Extra chips accidentally put in your McDonald's take out packet. The perfect worn in leather bag spotted in a vintage shop, your gran's cameo broach in perfect condition. And last but not least, the exceptional ex that might come back into your life for the right reasons, is something we all believe we might find and keep forever... And thank goodness for exceptions!